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Rowing Through...

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Whenever you're in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude. ~ William James. A recent row with Muse reduced me to tears. It also taught me a lot of things.   1) Never, ever assume what the other thinks.  Sometimes texting is not always the best way to communicate, especially when you need to plan things urgently. There's that tendency to read too much between the lines and filling in the blanks with your emotion rather than rational thinking. Just pick up the phone and call. 2) Accumulated pet peeves have the tendency to get articulated one by one during a row, which is not a bad thing. It  is a good thing, I think, albeit a shocking one, considering Muse is quite a reserved person and often keeps things to himself. Otherwise I'd never hear these pet peeves and therefore keep on hurting him. I should take note that when Muse did this, I just kept quiet